After thousands of years of male dominance, we now stand at the beginning of the feminine era, when women will rise to their appropriate prominence, and the entire world will recognize the harmony between man and woman. — The Rebbe
A couple who was having communication problems came to see the Rebbe. The woman said that her husband was consumed with his work, and that when he finally found time to speak with her, he criticized her and ordered her around. The husband said that his wife had no respect for him and didn’t listen to any of his suggestions.
“Why do you think your wife should listen to you?” the Rebbe asked. “Because a woman must listen to her husband,” he replied.
“But why should a woman listen to her husband?” the Rebbe asked. “Because the man is the master of the house.”
“No,” said the Rebbe. “The first thing that you as a man must follow is the edict that ‘a man should honor his wife more than he does himself.’ And then the righteous woman will have a husband she can respect and love. If the man does not fulfill his role, then it is the woman who must respectfully bring it to his attention.”
Contemporary society is just beginning to delve into the true distinctions between men and women. Besides the obvious physiological differences, there are also differences in the way men and women think, speak, and behave.
In order to understand the essential nature of man and woman, we must do away with human subjectivity and look through G-d’s eyes. Every human being, man and woman, was created for the same purpose — to fuse body and soul in order to make themselves and their world a better and holier place. In their service of G-d, there is absolutely no difference between a man and a woman; the only difference is in the way that service manifests itself.
What are the differences between men and women?
Man and woman represent two forms of divine energy; they are the male and female elements of a single soul.
G-d is neither masculine nor feminine, but has two forms of emanation: the masculine form, which is more aggressive, and the feminine form, which is more subtle. For a human being to lead a total life, he or she must have both forms of energy: the power of strength and the power of subtlety; the power of giving and the power of receiving. Ideally, these energies are merged seamlessly.
Men are physically stronger. By nature, they are usually more aggressive and externally oriented. In contrast, a woman usually embodies the ideal of inner dignity. Some people confuse such subtlety with weakness; in truth, it is stronger than the most aggressive physical force imaginable. True human dignity does not shout; it is a strong, steady voice that speaks from within. The nature of a woman, while subtle, is not weak. And the nature of a man, while aggressive, is not brutish. For man and woman to be complete, they must each possess both energies.
The answer is not for men and women to try to be alike. All men and women must be themselves, realizing that G-d has given each of us unique abilities with which to pursue our goals, and that our primary responsibility is to take full advantage of those abilities.
What is true liberation for both sexes?
Though feminism rightfully calls for the end of male domination and abuse, and for equal rights for women, it is vital to get to the root of the distortion — that our focus in life, as man or woman, must not be simply to satisfy our own ego or needs, but to serve G-d. True women’s liberation does not mean merely seeking equality within a masculine world, but liberating the divine feminine aspects of a woman’s personality and using them for the benefit of humankind.
After so many years of male dominance, we are standing at the threshold of a true feminine era. It is time now for the woman to rise to her true prominence, when the subtle power of the feminine energy is truly allowed to nourish the overt power of the masculine energy. We have already proven that we can use our strength to slay the demons around us; let us now learn to nurture the G-dliness within.
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The saying “Men come from Mars and women come from Venus” is all based on the differences between the sexes. While feminists claim they want equal rights to men, it cannot be ignored that there are some basic differences between the two sexes. When these differences are taken into account, it becomes clear that in some cases women cannot enjoy an equal footing with men.
There are certain things that women can do far better than most men can. These tasks include:
- Being in touch with feelings and emotions
- Able to learn new tasks at a quicker rate than men
Of course there are exceptions to the rule as many men may claim. However women do tend to excel at intelligence and language skills. These skills have long helped women both in their careers and at home where they struggle between raising a family and raising the money necessary to keep the family in all that they need.
IDEAL CAREERS FOR WOMEN
With skills such as intelligence, caring and language skills, there are many careers that are perfect for most women. Careers that are said to be women’s work include:
- Nursery nurse
- Social care
There are many others that can be added to this list. However with skills such as intelligence and language, women also make good bosses and many find themselves moving up the career ladder.
Men tend to fare better in ideas of strength other than intelligence. Men also tend to be far more aggressive than women. This strength and aggression allows men to excel at sports such as:
- Boxing Weightlifting Martial Arts Body Building
IDEAL CAREERS FOR MEN
Not only is this strength and aggression found in sports but also in careers that many claim to be men’s work. These jobs include:
There are some exceptions to the rules as yes there are some women who undertake these careers but on the whole they are seen to be jobs for men.
Women tend to be better at some things and men at others. There will always be the exception to this rule as yes some men can be seen to be more feminine than others. It is also said that some women can be seen to be more masculine than others. However on the whole there is a big difference between men and women that cannot be ignored.